Looking to spark more playful conversations in your marriage community? This or That prompts make engagement easy by inviting everyone to choose between two fun options. Take the guesswork out of posting and watch your members open up with these ready-to-use ideas.
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This or That prompts are a proven way to break the ice and encourage even the quietest members to join in. By making participation as easy as picking between two choices, you lower the barrier for involvement and create a sense of inclusiveness. The lighthearted, low-stakes nature of these questions removes pressure and makes it safe for anyone to answer.
For marriage communities, these prompts are especially effective because they tap into shared experiences, everyday moments, and quirky preferences. Couples love comparing their answers, sparking friendly debates, and finding common ground. The result is a more vibrant, connected community where members feel comfortable expressing their personalities.
Date night in or date night out?
💡 Example: "Date night in or date night out? Which do you love more?"
Cuddle on the couch or go for a walk together?
💡 Example: "Cuddle on the couch or go for a walk together? Tell us your favorite way to connect!"
Cooking dinner together or ordering takeout?
💡 Example: "Cooking dinner together or ordering takeout? What feels more like 'us'?"
Sweet anniversary card or a surprise gift?
💡 Example: "Sweet anniversary card or a surprise gift? Which makes you melt?"
Morning coffee together or bedtime chats?
💡 Example: "Morning coffee together or bedtime chats? Pick your favorite daily moment."
Vacay at the beach or exploring a new city?
💡 Example: "Vacay at the beach or exploring a new city? Share your dream couple getaway!"
Big wedding or small elopement?
💡 Example: "Big wedding or small elopement? Which would you choose if you could do it again?"
Lazy Sunday mornings or spontaneous weekend adventures?
💡 Example: "Lazy Sunday mornings or spontaneous weekend adventures? Tell us your style!"
Matching pajamas or matching mugs?
💡 Example: "Matching pajamas or matching mugs? Which is cuter?"
Love notes or random acts of kindness?
💡 Example: "Love notes or random acts of kindness? How do you show your love?"
Movie marathon at home or night at the theater?
💡 Example: "Movie marathon at home or night at the theater? Drop your pick!"
Share desserts or keep your own?
💡 Example: "Share desserts or keep your own? Vote and tag your partner!"
Text throughout the day or one long call?
💡 Example: "Text throughout the day or one long call? Which do you prefer?"
Reminisce about the past or dream about the future?
💡 Example: "Reminisce about the past or dream about the future? Share your answer!"
First dance song or first trip together?
💡 Example: "First dance song or first trip together? Which memory stands out more?"
Stay up late together or wake up early together?
💡 Example: "Stay up late together or wake up early together? What fits your relationship?"
Make each other laugh or comfort each other in tough times?
💡 Example: "Make each other laugh or comfort each other in tough times? Which matters most?"
Plan everything or go with the flow?
💡 Example: "Plan everything or go with the flow? Which describes your relationship?"
Public displays of affection or private moments?
💡 Example: "Public displays of affection or private moments? Pick your preference!"
Couple's spa day or outdoor adventure?
💡 Example: "Couple's spa day or outdoor adventure? Which would you book first?"
Share household chores or divide and conquer?
💡 Example: "Share household chores or divide and conquer? How do you handle chores?"
Surprise date or planned celebration?
💡 Example: "Surprise date or planned celebration? What gets your heart racing?"
Decorate for holidays together or keep it simple?
💡 Example: "Decorate for holidays together or keep it simple? Share in the comments!"
Inside jokes or shared hobbies?
💡 Example: "Inside jokes or shared hobbies? What brings you closer?"
Stay in touch with family or create your own traditions?
💡 Example: "Stay in touch with family or create your own traditions? Drop your answer!"
Silly selfies or professional couple photos?
💡 Example: "Silly selfies or professional couple photos? Which do you prefer?"
Early risers or night owls?
💡 Example: "Early risers or night owls? What are you as a couple?"
Share passwords or keep some privacy?
💡 Example: "Share passwords or keep some privacy? Which works for you?"
Dance together or sing together?
💡 Example: "Dance together or sing together? Which is more your style?"
Snuggle under blankets or sit by the fireplace?
💡 Example: "Snuggle under blankets or sit by the fireplace? What do you choose on a chilly night?"
Celebrate big wins or cherish small moments?
💡 Example: "Celebrate big wins or cherish small moments? Tell us why!"
Weekend getaway or staycation at home?
💡 Example: "Weekend getaway or staycation at home? Vote and share your dream weekend!"
Board games or video games together?
💡 Example: "Board games or video games together? Which do you play?"
Long hugs or quick kisses?
💡 Example: "Long hugs or quick kisses? What makes you feel loved?"
Matching couple outfits or totally different styles?
💡 Example: "Matching couple outfits or totally different styles? Share your fashion vibe!"
Cook breakfast together or go out for brunch?
💡 Example: "Cook breakfast together or go out for brunch? What's your weekend habit?"
Netflix binge or read together in silence?
💡 Example: "Netflix binge or read together in silence? Pick your perfect night in."
Surprise flowers or favorite snack delivery?
💡 Example: "Surprise flowers or favorite snack delivery? What makes your day?"
Go on double dates or prefer time alone?
💡 Example: "Go on double dates or prefer time alone? Which do you prefer?"
Plan a dream vacation or build your dream home?
💡 Example: "Plan a dream vacation or build your dream home? What's your pick?"
To use these templates, simply copy and paste a prompt into your community feed, group chat, or story. You can post them as text, create a graphic, or add them to a poll. Encourage members to share their answers in the comments or reply with their reasons. For extra engagement, tag a member to answer first, or turn results into a follow-up discussion. Rotate prompts regularly to keep things fresh and inviting for everyone.
These This or That templates are optimized for all platforms. On forums and Facebook Groups, use them as conversation starters in threads. On Instagram or Facebook Stories, use the poll feature for instant feedback. In group chats, drop a prompt during slower times to revive conversation. Always reply to answers to keep the momentum going.
When creating This or That prompts, consider universal marriage experiences (like 'date night in vs. date night out') as well as stage-specific scenarios ('premarital counseling vs. ongoing couples therapy'). This ensures engagement from couples at different points in their marriage journey. Mixing broad topics with targeted ones allows all members to find relevance and participate.
Focus on lighthearted or solution-oriented choices, such as 'talk it out immediately vs. cool down before discussing' or 'joint decision-making vs. designated roles.' Avoid prompts that could incite arguments or single out sensitive issues. Phrase options in a way that encourages positive sharing rather than criticism.
Yes, but do so thoughtfully. Frame prompts to invite sharing, like 'big family wedding vs. intimate ceremony' or 'blending traditions vs. creating new ones.' Encourage members to explain their choices and celebrate differences, fostering inclusivity and learning about various marital customs.
Use prompts that normalize these differences, such as 'shared bank account vs. separate accounts' or 'structured routines vs. spontaneous parenting.' Remind members that there are many successful approaches in marriage, and foster respectful discussion by encouraging constructive explanations for their choices.
Yes, topics like handling in-laws ('holidays with my family vs. partner's family'), preferred couple activities ('Netflix night vs. outdoor adventure'), and conflict resolution styles tend to spark lively, relatable conversations. Periodically revisit these classic scenarios to maintain engagement.
Set guidelines for respectful discussion and remind members that every marriage is unique. For sensitive topics, use gentle wording (e.g., 'early bedtime cuddles vs. late-night chats') and provide moderation if debates become heated. Highlight the value of diverse experiences and create a safe space for honest sharing.
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