Finding it hard to spark conversations in your dating community? This or That prompts offer a simple, playful way to break the ice and get members talking. Use these ready-made templates to immediately boost engagement and bring your community together.
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This or That posts tap into our natural desire to share preferences and opinions without feeling put on the spot. The low-pressure format encourages even shy members to join in, since the choices are easy and lighthearted. By inviting quick responses, these prompts keep conversations flowing and help members discover what they have in common.
In dating communities, where starting a conversation can feel intimidating, these prompts break down barriers. Members can reveal bits of their personality and start playful debates without too much vulnerability. This approach not only boosts participation, but also helps members connect through shared experiences and interests.
The simplicity and fun of This or That questions make them highly shareable and perfect for all platforms. They create a welcoming environment where members feel comfortable joining in and expressing themselves.
Dinner date or coffee date?
💡 Example: "Dinner date or coffee date? Which do you prefer for a first meetup?"
Texting or phone calls when getting to know someone?
💡 Example: "Texting or phone calls when getting to know someone? Vote below!"
Funny or romantic first messages?
💡 Example: "Funny or romantic first messages? Which catches your attention?"
Group date or one-on-one date?
💡 Example: "Group date or one-on-one date? Share your pick below!"
Adventurous date or cozy night in?
💡 Example: "Adventurous date or cozy night in? Tell us why you chose!"
Matching playlists or swapping favorite books?
💡 Example: "Matching playlists or swapping favorite books? Which helps you bond?"
Meet online or meet in person first?
💡 Example: "Meet online or meet in person first? What feels more comfortable for you?"
Date night: movies or mini golf?
💡 Example: "Date night: movies or mini golf? Pick your favorite below!"
Spontaneous plans or scheduled dates?
💡 Example: "Spontaneous plans or scheduled dates? Which do you prefer?"
Beach walk or city stroll for a date?
💡 Example: "Beach walk or city stroll for a date? Which one sounds better to you?"
Morning date or evening date?
💡 Example: "Morning date or evening date? When do you feel most relaxed?"
Dressed up or casual for first date?
💡 Example: "Dressed up or casual for first date? What is your go-to look?"
Ice cream or pizza date?
💡 Example: "Ice cream or pizza date? Which treat wins for you?"
Share memes or deep conversations?
💡 Example: "Share memes or deep conversations? Tell us your vibe!"
Would you rather cook together or order takeout?
💡 Example: "Would you rather cook together or order takeout? What sounds more fun?"
Surprise date or plan together?
💡 Example: "Surprise date or plan together? Share your pick in the comments!"
Dog lover or cat lover?
💡 Example: "Dog lover or cat lover? Which team are you on?"
Laughing together or meaningful talks?
💡 Example: "Laughing together or meaningful talks? What matters more to you?"
Road trip or staycation with a date?
💡 Example: "Road trip or staycation with a date? Drop your answer below!"
Sushi night or taco night?
💡 Example: "Sushi night or taco night? What's your pick?"
Board games or video games for a fun date?
💡 Example: "Board games or video games for a fun date? Which do you enjoy more?"
First meet: brunch or dinner?
💡 Example: "First meet: brunch or dinner? Cast your vote!"
Long walks or cozy chats at home?
💡 Example: "Long walks or cozy chats at home? Which feels more romantic?"
Would you rather meet someone through friends or online?
💡 Example: "Would you rather meet someone through friends or online? Comment below!"
Picnic in the park or rooftop drinks?
💡 Example: "Picnic in the park or rooftop drinks? What's your dream date?"
Movie marathon or hiking adventure?
💡 Example: "Movie marathon or hiking adventure? Let us know!"
Sweet texts or surprise gifts?
💡 Example: "Sweet texts or surprise gifts? Which means more to you?"
Would you rather have a picnic or go out to eat?
💡 Example: "Would you rather have a picnic or go out to eat? Share your answer!"
Share your favorite meme or favorite quote?
💡 Example: "Share your favorite meme or favorite quote? Which do you send first?"
Would you rather chat late at night or early in the morning?
💡 Example: "Would you rather chat late at night or early in the morning? Vote now!"
Outdoor festival or art gallery date?
💡 Example: "Outdoor festival or art gallery date? Which would you pick?"
Would you rather send a GIF or emoji to start a chat?
💡 Example: "Would you rather send a GIF or emoji to start a chat?"
First date: go for a walk or grab a drink?
💡 Example: "First date: go for a walk or grab a drink? Tell us your style!"
Would you rather find love by chance or through searching?
💡 Example: "Would you rather find love by chance or through searching? Share below!"
Travel together or stay local for dates?
💡 Example: "Travel together or stay local for dates? Which do you like more?"
Would you rather get flowers or a handwritten note?
💡 Example: "Would you rather get flowers or a handwritten note? Let us know!"
Call each other cute nicknames or stick to real names?
💡 Example: "Call each other cute nicknames or stick to real names? Which do you prefer?"
Would you rather meet for brunch or dessert?
💡 Example: "Would you rather meet for brunch or dessert? Which sounds better?"
Share playlists or swap photos to get to know someone?
💡 Example: "Share playlists or swap photos to get to know someone? Drop your answer!"
Would you rather date someone with similar hobbies or different ones?
💡 Example: "Would you rather date someone with similar hobbies or different ones?"
To use these templates, simply copy and paste your chosen prompt into your community platform as a post or story. Encourage members to reply in the comments or with quick reactions. For extra engagement, follow up with your own answer or tag a few active members to kick things off. Rotate themes regularly to keep things fresh and relevant, and adjust your prompts based on your community's unique vibe and interests.
These This or That templates work across all platforms. For forums and groups, post as a new thread and pin it for visibility. On social media, use interactive features like polls or stories for instant feedback. In chat-based communities, drop prompts during peak activity times for maximum participation. Always encourage replies and thank members for sharing their choices.
Tailor your questions to reflect the variety within your community. For example, use scenarios like 'First date: Coffee shop or fancy dinner?' or 'Looking for sparks: Love at first sight or slow burn romance?'. Clarify in your post if you want answers from those seeking casual connections or long-term relationships to make everyone feel included.
Focus on relatable app-specific scenarios, such as 'Swipe right for a great profile pic or an intriguing bio?' or 'Preferred convo starter: Memes or thoughtful questions?'. These prompts encourage users to share their real-life app experiences, leading to meaningful engagement and advice exchanges.
Frame sensitive topics positively and keep them light-hearted. For example, ask 'Must-have: Sense of humor or ambition?' or 'Red flag: Always late or bad texter?'. Encourage respectful sharing and remind members to focus on preferences, not personal critiques, to maintain a supportive environment.
Absolutely! Tailor questions like 'Prefer to give: Compliments or acts of service?' or 'Best way to resolve conflict: Talk it out or take a break?'. These not only make for fun polls but also allow members to reflect on and discuss their unique dating styles, deepening connections.
Reference current dating trends with prompts like 'Deal with ghosting: Move on or message again?' or 'Relationship reveal: Soft launch or full announcement?'. These trending topics resonate with users’ recent experiences, prompting more shares, reactions, and lively debates.
Use approachable, low-pressure prompts such as 'First message: Classic 'Hey' or unique opener?' or 'First date: Group activity or one-on-one?'. Pin these questions, tag new members, and remind everyone that all preferences are valid to foster inclusivity and participation from every comfort level.
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