Struggling to spark fun, low-pressure conversations in your dating app community? These This or That templates make it easy to break the ice and get members talking. Use them to create playful posts that drive quick, lighthearted engagement.
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This or That prompts tap into the psychology of quick decision-making, lowering the barrier for participation. Members are more likely to comment when the question is simple and the stakes are low, making it accessible for everyone, including lurkers and newer users.
By presenting two relatable options, you encourage playful self-expression and reveal small preferences that can lead to deeper conversations. This format also fosters a sense of group connection, as members compare answers and discover unexpected similarities or friendly differences.
In the app dating space, light prompts like these help members showcase personality without pressure, building confidence and comfort in the community.
First date: coffee shop or rooftop bar?
💡 Example: "First date: coffee shop or rooftop bar? Tell us your pick!"
Texting or phone calls when getting to know someone?
💡 Example: "Texting or phone calls when getting to know someone? Which do you prefer and why?"
Would you rather match with someone spontaneous or someone who plans ahead?
💡 Example: "Would you rather match with someone spontaneous or someone who plans ahead?"
Dinner date or daytime adventure?
💡 Example: "Dinner date or daytime adventure?"
Introverted partner or extroverted partner?
💡 Example: "Introverted partner or extroverted partner?"
Would you rather meet through the app or bump into each other in real life?
💡 Example: "Would you rather meet through the app or bump into each other in real life? Why?"
Dog lover or cat enthusiast?
💡 Example: "Dog lover or cat enthusiast?"
First message: funny opener or genuine compliment?
💡 Example: "First message: funny opener or genuine compliment?"
Movies or live music for a date night?
💡 Example: "Movies or live music for a date night?"
Swipe right for adventure or for cozy nights in?
💡 Example: "Swipe right for adventure or for cozy nights in? Let us know!"
Would you rather have a long chat or meet in person quickly?
💡 Example: "Would you rather have a long chat or meet in person quickly?"
Make the first move or wait to be approached?
💡 Example: "Make the first move or wait to be approached? Which are you?"
Romantic dinner or playful mini-golf?
💡 Example: "Romantic dinner or playful mini-golf?"
Would you rather match with someone who loves travel or loves cooking?
💡 Example: "Would you rather match with someone who loves travel or loves cooking?"
Profile pic: silly selfie or polished portrait?
💡 Example: "Profile pic: silly selfie or polished portrait?"
Would you rather have a partner who is an early bird or a night owl?
💡 Example: "Would you rather have a partner who is an early bird or a night owl? Why?"
Ice cream date or coffee date?
💡 Example: "Ice cream date or coffee date?"
Would you rather get to know someone through games or deep talks?
💡 Example: "Would you rather get to know someone through games or deep talks?"
Group date or one-on-one?
💡 Example: "Group date or one-on-one?"
Would you rather match with someone funny or someone thoughtful?
💡 Example: "Would you rather match with someone funny or someone thoughtful?"
Open with a meme or a question?
💡 Example: "Open with a meme or a question?"
Would you rather go on a surprise date or plan every detail?
💡 Example: "Would you rather go on a surprise date or plan every detail?"
First date outfit: casual or dressed up?
💡 Example: "First date outfit: casual or dressed up?"
Would you rather find love close to home or long distance?
💡 Example: "Would you rather find love close to home or long distance?"
Gift giving or quality time?
💡 Example: "Gift giving or quality time?"
Would you rather double date with friends or keep it private?
💡 Example: "Would you rather double date with friends or keep it private? Share your thoughts!"
Share your pick: cozy movie night or dancing all night?
💡 Example: "Share your pick: cozy movie night or dancing all night?"
Would you rather connect over shared hobbies or opposite interests?
💡 Example: "Would you rather connect over shared hobbies or opposite interests?"
Profile bio: keep it short or share lots of details?
💡 Example: "Profile bio: keep it short or share lots of details?"
Would you rather match with someone who loves the outdoors or city life?
💡 Example: "Would you rather match with someone who loves the outdoors or city life?"
Send a GIF or a voice note?
💡 Example: "Send a GIF or a voice note?"
Would you rather meet for brunch or a sunset walk?
💡 Example: "Would you rather meet for brunch or a sunset walk?"
Long chats or short and sweet messages?
💡 Example: "Long chats or short and sweet messages?"
Would you rather be set up by friends or meet on your own?
💡 Example: "Would you rather be set up by friends or meet on your own?"
Would you rather go on a picnic or try a new restaurant?
💡 Example: "Would you rather go on a picnic or try a new restaurant?"
First message: emoji or no emoji?
💡 Example: "First message: emoji or no emoji?"
Would you rather date someone who loves to cook or loves to order takeout?
💡 Example: "Would you rather date someone who loves to cook or loves to order takeout?"
Would you rather chat late at night or early in the morning?
💡 Example: "Would you rather chat late at night or early in the morning?"
Would you rather watch a movie at home or go to the theater for a date?
💡 Example: "Would you rather watch a movie at home or go to the theater for a date?"
Would you rather bond over music or binge-watching TV shows?
💡 Example: "Would you rather bond over music or binge-watching TV shows?"
Would you rather have a partner who is always punctual or always spontaneous?
💡 Example: "Would you rather have a partner who is always punctual or always spontaneous?"
Pick a template and post it as a question or story in your community feed, chat, or group. Encourage members to answer with their pick and, if they want, a short reason why. Rotate topics regularly to keep engagement fresh. For best results, respond to answers and tag members to keep the conversation going. Consider using images or polls for added interaction if your platform allows.
On all platforms, use simple language and direct questions. If available, use visual aids like polls or emojis to increase interaction. Pin or highlight top This or That posts to encourage more responses. Always monitor for respectful interaction and gently guide conversations back to the main topic if needed.
Aim for 1-3 times a week, depending on your community's activity level. Keep prompts varied to maintain interest.
Keep it short and clear, ideally one sentence with two contrasting options. Avoid long explanations.
Yes, adding images or polls can increase engagement if your platform supports them. Just keep the options clear.
Absolutely, they work for both public and private spaces. Adjust the tone for your specific audience.
Try tagging active members, changing the topic, or posting at a different time. Consistency helps boost participation.
Stick to everyday, lighthearted themes. Avoid topics related to politics, religion, or personal finances.
Yes, inviting members to share why they chose an option often leads to richer conversations and better engagement.